Change is hard. As almost all people know, it can be really hard to change! When we think about ways to move towards change, some ideas work well and others not so much. Here is a list of routes to change from least effective to most effective (according to Ann Betz, coach and poet).
Some ways we try to make changes:
Ignore the problem – pretend everything is okay, push the feeling aside…
- This is NOT effective
Control the environment – make sure you don’t encounter stress
- Helps a little but most stressors are unavoidable at some point
Name your emotion – short venting
- It’s great to name the emotion, however we still haven’t gotten to problem solving.
Put attention on what’s important – explore what fulfills you
- Here we get clear on our intent for ourselves and for our lives, this is important groundwork for the next steps!
Reframing – learn to look at things from a new angle
- Now we are able to look at problems with a bit more objectivity and find new, healthier ways of thinking.
Mindfulness – learn to be in the here and now, get present
Often with depression, anxiety and other issues we are living in the past or the future. Learning to be mindful involves staying present to what’s going on right now. Until we learn to stay present, change can be hard to come by.
Think about the above routes to change and how you can move yourself towards the bottom few ideas. Using these tools will certainly move you closer to the change you desire to help you in grow.
Individual therapy is one way you can get the support you need to make the changes you aspire for. http://collaborativemn.com/individual-therapy/